"All guys want sex", "all the nice guys are either gay or taken", "I'm never going out with guys again", "I'm turning lesbian because I'm just sick of guys", "where are the nice guys?", "I attract the wrong kind of guys", "all guys do is want me for sex", "guys are stupid", "guys are so hard to understand". Blah blah blah blah blah.
The first question that seems to be on many women's mind is "
Do all guys think about sex?"
Yes, does that mean it makes them use girls for only sex?
Absolutely not.Does that mean there are guys out there who wouldn't use you for sex?
Absolutely
Are men capable of real relationships?
Yes
What everything comes down to is YES, all men think about sex. Statistics say that the average man thinks about sex 70% of his day. That's a lot of sexual images, isn't it? What if I told you that statistics also said that the average woman thinks about sex 40% of the day? It's a 30% difference, but does that not make it a lot? Does that not justify that
everyone thinks about sex? Clearly, the average person, no matter what gender, thinks about sex everyday. Well damn Brandon, I thought that males think about sex all the time!
No. (Buzzer sound) you are incorrect. We're all human beings, we all want sex to some degree. So, what's the big deal? Well, no one wants to blame their problems on themselves. They don't take responsibility and point the finger at someone else to make them feel better.
So, this woman (let's call her Dumbass), started going out with this guy. Oh, she really liked this dude -- he was really attractive, had a nice body, loved to party, etc. She started to realize that he was more of an asshole than she thought...a real jerk, who only wanted her body. I mean, she liked this guy since she first layed eyes on him! How could she not see what he really was like?
Oh yeah, she could of gotten to know him more...y' know, like be friends? Start out slow? Travel to different places that would have less drunks, meet new guys, find out who's legit and who's not? But nah, friendship...come on, the dude looked good, that's all that matters. If he doesn't look good, then what kind of person is he? Non-physically attractive people have no personalities.
Women, have you ever asked yourself the question "
where are the nice guys"? From now on, think about how many friends you have that are males. Let's see...there's my best friend, who I talk about everything with, he's always there for me, etc. Wait! Stop right there. Now ask yourself that same question again.
My point is that they're all around. I'm not going to say "nice guys finish last", I don't want you to feel bad for the nice guys out there, but I want to teach you how to answer your own questions. My point is that you're wrong. Your beliefs are wrong, and there's nothing that I can do to change them. Some women will always believe that they won't ever be satisfied with what they have. It used to be that size was an issue. If men in porn can satisfy a woman with a 12 inch dong, then that must be true in reality. So, let's try it. "Ow ow ow ow ow ow ouch...I can't do this". She's got his penis half-way in her vagina and she's already complaining. Of course, if she needed a 12 inch dong, her vagina must be really loose.
Now it's about true relationships. Men supposedly have a hard time being committed to a relationship because I guess they're incapable of feeling other emotions. All the feeling goes to his cock. He'll love you with one blowjob a day.
With that being said, guys are simple. If a guy is anything other than simple, then something must of happened in his past that made him complex.
Basically, there are two main types of guys in the world:
Guys who want sex and nothing but sex, and guys who want sex and want more than sex.
If the guys you are dating only want you for sex, then you're looking for the wrong type. Stop complaining, stop making the wrong kind of guys look bad, and just move on. There's no point in being a bitch about it. If all you're going to do is complain about how bad guys are, then go lesbian. Lesbians have drama too, y' know. You can't avoid problems.
EDIT 3:59 PM
This day has been great for me. This entry has been the first ever entry that's ever gotten featured. I really appreciate everyone's comments, recommendations, stars, and just stopping by to read my entry. If it weren't for you, I wouldn't have made it to the featured list. I owe you everything!!
EDIT 9:00 PM
I'm beginning to get some negative comments, so here's a couple things that I have to say:• I am not intending for this entry to be sexist. I'm not sexist, nor am I trying to be. I love women. I have heard many times about women complaining about how guys are pigs that only want sex. That's an over-generalization that I'm just not going to keep my mouth shut to. • I understand that my entry was in a male's point of view (no shit, right?), so I'm not trying point the finger at females and say that they're a problem. In fact, I strongly encourage someone to type about this in a woman's perspective...and I will happily add the link to this very entry because I fully respect both genders.• I am NOT bashing on women. People make bad choices, people make good choices, and this entry is supposed to be helpful to make less bad choices and more good choices in relationships. So, I am not sexist. I don't want people who comment to bash the other genders either. This is all a common issue that people want to understand and know about. This entry isn't for my benefit, it's for those who need this kind of perspective. Male or female. I'm not promoting anything other than making good decisions when going into relationships. So, I sincerely apologize to the women who believe that I was directing this entry to ALL women. I'm just directing this entry to the women who ARE like this and want to see things differently.
Edit 11:53 PM
This is my last edit, I promise. I just realized that there's a shit load of comments that I haven't replied to and I really apologize for the people I haven't responded to yet. I would respond to all of them, but that's like...a shit load. So if I don't come across to responding to your comment, I apologize. Like I said earlier, I really appreciate what you all have done. I've been part of the Xanga community for three years pretty much, and never ever came CLOSE to having an entry featured. It's a great feeling and I appreciate all the support. Because of this, it's kind of like...a dream come true (I know, it's pathetic but hey...I'm not the only one I suppose). So if I never respond to your entry, just know that I really appreciate your comment/support.
Edit 8:33 PM 9/11/08
Ah screw it. Promises are meant to be broken anyways! Well, two people have typed up stuff like this entry, so I think you should check em' out. Here's the links:
http://weblog.xanga.com/IsisMari/673990588/girls-are-bitches.html
http://weblog.xanga.com/Dial_A_Prayer/674027275/what-i-love-about-guys-5-in-5.html
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Comments (347)
What a concept, looking past the exterior and building a foundation that'll outlast the pretty, pretty shell. (And I laughed about the lesbian comment. Women are just as bad as men, if not worse, in my experience)
I think that women are just as guilty in propogating the problem of the good girl/bad guy connection. And I fully admit to being privvy to my part in that issue. It's, as you said, about taking responsibility for your own actions, bc it's extremely rare that some guy just out of the blue takes over your life without your consent.
I really liked this entry!!
(Just for the record, men do the exact same shit toward us. 
Maybe I'll write the other side.)
@KystWorld - You totally should. Hearing both sides of the issue is how it's done.
exactly..! boy oh boy do i need to get my friends to read this. they keep going through the same bad relationships and it's because they don't look in the right places and this entry explains so much why!
great guys DO exist. ladies just need to take the time and find them in the right way.
LOL I just WOULD not miss this Thanks Girlfriend KystWorld!
Correction, guys think about sex every 2 seconds and that doesn't exclude gay guys. Since this is all about sex, I think you must have gone into a world hmmm filled with immatured women : P Another Correction and that is a woman's vagina can really accommodate. Average length of a baby at birth is about 14" from head to toe. Where did you think you came out of? Oh unless you are a C-section baby.
There is only ONE main type of Guys in this world : Guys that want sex be it realistically or in fantasy. Performance and sustenance is another issue.
Not all guys are assholes I'd give you that, if only they will stop making themselves to be one. : )
Girls think about sex too. Maybe it's just my overly reactive hormones, but I'll start thinking about sex at the most random time. And when I catch myself I think," God, I'm such a male sometimes." I think a lot of women stereotype men without evening realizing it.
It comes a lot from the media though, because I've never talked about how men want sex all the time and I've never really had an experience outside of the guy I'm head over heels for. Next time, I'll try not to be so stereotypical because of this post.
Great entry by the way.
-CrazyKey123
@principessadolce@xanga - I don't care how big the baby gets. What I'm saying is that you don't need a 12 inch penis to satisfy a woman. Tell me there's been a woman who had an orgasm during birth. I don't care if a vagina can actually take a 12 inch penis through lots of practice/pain. My point is that women expected too much of men. For what reason? Absolutely nothing. So saying stuff like "accommodate" is irrelevant.
I'm pretty sure I know what I'm talking about. Like I said, all guys want sex, plain and simple. Fantasy, reality, it doesn't matter. Sex is sex. I wasn't getting specific. It may seem like there's only one type of guy in the world, but that's because you're falling for the wrong guys. Step your game up. Stop complaining and trying to correct me.
How would you feel if I called you a bitch? Maybe you wouldn't care, but I think you need to get out more. Meet new people. Add some variety and color to your life. Seems to me like you aren't very happy with the male population.
As I said, if you haven't gone lesbian already, no one is preventing you from turning lesbian. Just stop complaining! It's not hard! You see, guys aren't the problem. You're the problem because you won't accept things as they are. I'm spitting out the truth here, and I don't care whether or not it affects you or not because it's your bad relationships not mine. Either move on, or...rant about guys in wordpad and then delete it.
@SomeRandomDude - LOL dude! Lighten up! For one, I wasn't even near to attacking you nor your blog. Plus, YOU are the one Complaining that we women are the ones going on and on and on about guys being assholes blah blah. Don't have selective reading dude and don't jump to conclusions too soon either about all women as I think YOU really need to get out there and see life more for yourself and perhaps smell more roses along the way.
And may I repeat myself : "Not all guys are assholes I'd give you that, if only they will stop making themselves to be one. : )"
Why did I inidicate 'immature women'? These are really the ones who walk around life with their vision impaired - they demand, they whine, they cling (hey, maybe SOME guys love that), they suffocate. So, when finally the guys run out and dump them, they complain that all you guys can think and want is sex. I can write a thesis about women like that.
Like I said before, lighten up! Life isn't just filled with those kind of women.
Cheers! : )
Great post.
@principessadolce@xanga - Maybe I got a little out of hand. My apologies. I just thought you were hatin'. But I do get out, though. I'm only complaining because it's complaining against the thousands and thousands of complaints. You gotta speak your mind sometime, you can't just let things roll by. I can't change people, but it's nice to know people who agree with my points of view. Like I said, sorry -- I guess I read that wrong. I took the "if only" wrong and made me believe that you were basically saying "yeah, not all guys are assholes...when they aren't assholes".
I know life isn't filled with women who complain, and I surely do appreciate those kinds of women. With that being said, I'm only directing this entry to women who are like that. I'm not trying to make people believe I'm a sexist or whatever because I love women. I truly do.
@ch0w@xanga - I'm proud of you. You have conquered the first paragraph...and for that, I give you honor.
I'm with you on this one. I'm trying to avoid the trap of saying all women are ***** just because I am so sick of women who try to say all men are sex fiends or something. It's not fair to lump in decent folks with everyone else.
Nice, dude, nice.
@GreekPhysique@xanga - That's good man. The innocent people don't deserve to suffer! But that's just how the world is sometimes. It's best to just avoid all that nonsense. I'm glad that you're putting forth effort to not do that.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - Thanks :P. I did my best. Hope you enjoyed it.
You mean, we should like, quit trying to find guys in places where jerks AND bitches alike run rampant?
But that's soooo hard.
Lmao. I'm kidding.
Great entry.
@Laryssa@xanga - Omg hellzz yeahhh
Lol, thanks. Glad you enjoyed it.
amen dude :P
its usually the older, bitter ones that complain about not being able to find a man, that and they complain that men only want young girls with a landing strip. sigh. that's why they deserve to be alone.
Lesbians have drama...no truer words...
Keepin it real!
Nice post.
Oh, I totally agree. I say that a lot of girls say that they want nice guys, but really don't. Girls can be really shallow. Not to say that guys can't be. But a lot of the time, girls have the wrong idea about what they want. Or have unrealistic expectations of what they want. Great, great entry, every girl should read it.
This cracked me up. I guess girls get into a comfortable pattern, where they see certain traits that they're attracted to, but those traits are typically found in the wrong kind of guy. Yet they choose to change the pattern. Ugh.
I'm a chick and I've felt the way you do since before I even knew I was one, when I was practically a zygote. It's nice finally seeing someone speak out about this. Let us not forget, though, that the same can be said when men do this with women.
Bottom line: Generalizations are an intellectual abortion. Choose life.