"All guys want sex", "all the nice guys are either gay or taken", "I'm never going out with guys again", "I'm turning lesbian because I'm just sick of guys", "where are the nice guys?", "I attract the wrong kind of guys", "all guys do is want me for sex", "guys are stupid", "guys are so hard to understand". Blah blah blah blah blah.

The first question that seems to be on many women's mind is "Do all guys think about sex?"

Yes, does that mean it makes them use girls for only sex? Absolutely not.
Does that mean there are guys out there who wouldn't use you for sex? Absolutely
Are men capable of real relationships? Yes

What everything comes down to is YES, all men think about sex. Statistics say that the average man thinks about sex 70% of his day. That's a lot of sexual images, isn't it? What if I told you that statistics also said that the average woman thinks about sex 40% of the day? It's a 30% difference, but does that not make it a lot? Does that not justify that everyone thinks about sex? Clearly, the average person, no matter what gender, thinks about sex everyday. Well damn Brandon, I thought that males think about sex all the time!

No. (Buzzer sound) you are incorrect. We're all human beings, we all want sex to some degree. So, what's the big deal? Well, no one wants to blame their problems on themselves. They don't take responsibility and point the finger at someone else to make them feel better.

So, this woman  (let's call her Dumbass), started going out with this guy. Oh, she really liked this dude -- he was really attractive, had a nice body, loved to party, etc. She started to realize that he was more of an asshole than she thought...a real jerk, who only wanted her body. I mean, she liked this guy since she first layed eyes on him! How could she not see what he really was like?

Oh yeah, she could of gotten to know him more...y' know, like be friends? Start out slow? Travel to different places that would have less drunks, meet new guys, find out who's legit and who's not? But nah, friendship...come on, the dude looked good, that's all that matters. If he doesn't look good, then what kind of person is he? Non-physically attractive people have no personalities.

Women, have you ever asked yourself the question "where are the nice guys"? From now on, think about how many friends you have that are males. Let's see...there's my best friend, who I talk about everything with, he's always there for me, etc. Wait! Stop right there. Now ask yourself that same question again.

My point is that they're all around. I'm not going to say "nice guys finish last", I don't want you to feel bad for the nice guys out there, but I want to teach you how to answer your own questions. My point is that you're wrong. Your beliefs are wrong, and there's nothing that I can do to change them. Some women will always believe that they won't ever be satisfied with what they have. It used to be that size was an issue. If men in porn can satisfy a woman with a 12 inch dong, then that must be true in reality. So, let's try it. "Ow ow ow ow ow ow ouch...I can't do this". She's got his penis half-way in her vagina and she's already complaining. Of course, if she needed a 12 inch dong, her vagina must be really loose.

Now it's about true relationships. Men supposedly have a hard time being committed to a relationship because I guess they're incapable of feeling other emotions. All the feeling goes to his cock. He'll love you with one blowjob a day.

With that being said, guys are simple. If a guy is anything other than simple, then something must of happened in his past that made him complex.

Basically, there are two main types of guys in the world:

Guys who want sex and nothing but sex, and guys who want sex and want more than sex.

If the guys you are dating only want you for sex, then you're looking for the wrong type. Stop complaining, stop making the wrong kind of guys look bad, and just move on. There's no point in being a bitch about it. If all you're going to do is complain about how bad guys are, then go lesbian. Lesbians have drama too, y' know. You can't avoid problems.

EDIT 3:59 PM

This day has been great for me. This entry has been the first ever entry that's ever gotten featured. I really appreciate everyone's comments, recommendations, stars, and just stopping by to read my entry. If it weren't for you, I wouldn't have made it to the featured list. I owe you everything!!

EDIT 9:00 PM

I'm beginning to get some negative comments, so here's a couple things that I have to say:

• I am not intending for this entry to be sexist. I'm not sexist, nor am I trying to be. I love women. I have heard many times about women complaining about how guys are pigs that only want sex. That's an over-generalization that I'm just not going to keep my mouth shut to.
• I understand that my entry was in a male's point of view (no shit, right?), so I'm not trying point the finger at females and say that they're a problem. In fact, I strongly encourage someone to type about this in a woman's perspective...and I will happily add the link to this very entry because I fully respect both genders.
• I am NOT bashing on women. People make bad choices, people make good choices, and this entry is supposed to be helpful to make less bad choices and more good choices in relationships.

So, I am not sexist. I don't want people who comment to bash the other genders either. This is all a common issue that people want to understand and know about. This entry isn't for my benefit, it's for those who need this kind of perspective. Male or female. I'm not promoting anything other than making good decisions when going into relationships.

So, I sincerely apologize to the women who believe that I was directing this entry to ALL women. I'm just directing this entry to the women who ARE like this and want to see things differently.

Edit 11:53 PM

This is my last edit, I promise. I just realized that there's a shit load of comments that I haven't replied to and I really apologize for the people I haven't responded to yet. I would respond to all of them, but that's like...a shit load. So if I don't come across to responding to your comment, I apologize. Like I said earlier, I really appreciate what you all have done. I've been part of the Xanga community for three years pretty much, and never ever came CLOSE to having an entry featured. It's a great feeling and I appreciate all the support. Because of this, it's kind of like...a dream come true (I know, it's pathetic but hey...I'm not the only one I suppose). So if I never respond to your entry, just know that I really appreciate your comment/support.

Edit 8:33 PM 9/11/08

Ah screw it. Promises are meant to be broken anyways! Well, two people have typed up stuff like this entry, so I think you should check em' out. Here's the links:

http://weblog.xanga.com/IsisMari/673990588/girls-are-bitches.html

http://weblog.xanga.com/Dial_A_Prayer/674027275/what-i-love-about-guys-5-in-5.html

Because I'm new to Datingish, I've decided to talk about my relationship status: single. The word "single" itself is not positive or negative -- it's neutral. To a normal human being, "single" is either positive or negative. I, on the other hand, view "single" as neutral.

When I was in middle school, I was top quality. I was sexy, I was fit, I was active, I was funny, etc. I went through relationship after relationship and always walked with pride down the hallways because I knew that many females wanted a chance with me. Essentially, I was full of myself.

By the time I was in 8th grade, I asked a girl out for the first time (before that the girls would ask me out). Not only did she reject, but she also said that I was "too ugly". How was this possible? I was more shocked than I was heartbroken because I was so used to compliments. After this experience, I never would of thought that it'd be the beginning of a new lifestyle.

Back then, I was offered to go to parties, I was offered sex, and I was offered someone to care about. The problem with me back then was that I was too shy and self-conscious that I never got laid, I never successfully made-out with a girl, and I never really understood the concept of a relationship. Because of this, my relationships only lasted three weeks on average (my longest relationship is five weeks).

Ever since that girl called me ugly, I've been single. I thought to myself "maybe high school will be better" because having been kicked out of my mom's house and moved in with my dad in a different county, there was going to be a whole bunch of new hotties that I've never seen before. That was no different, in fact...it was worse.

When I went into high school, I went in with excitement, nervousness, and depression (there's a story why I was kicked out but I don't want to discuss about that). I also had self-esteem issues, not because I was called "ugly", but because I started noticing that my hair was falling out, I was suffering with dandruff, and I was eating fattening foods and not participating in any kind of sport (I played soccer for 8 years until I quit year 2000).

I saw many beautiful girls/women in high school that I just simply couldn't handle being single. I began to feel lonely, depressed, and horny. By the time I was a sophomore, I was masturbating 8 times on average a day! Probably about 20% of my school day, I'd have a tucked in boner  I was simply a horndog. Because of this, my beliefs about things started to change. I believed that relationships aren't worth waiting for,  and I believed that getting laid was the only thing that mattered. In the real world, I was fine. On the internet, I had several cyber-sex partners, and several downloaded porn videos. The problem was that everything I was doing to deal with being single wasn't helping at all.

As I grew older, I read several self-help books because I decided to turn to professional help. I decided to join www.teenhelp.org for more guidance because I was often facing thoughts of suicide.

I am now 18 years old and not only have I been single for six years, I'm also still a virgin. To be quite honest, being single for six years wasn't what I had in mind, but I learned a lot about how to cope with being single. Because of my experience, I know what it feels like to feel lonely. I know what it feels like to want answers, I know what it feels like to want to kill myself because I didn't think I looked good enough for people, etc. Therefore, I have decided to make a list of the things I've learned to hopefully help those in need.

1. Emotions = Choice: The most important thing that I've learned about being single is how to deal with my emotions. You may not think this but we have the ability to control our emotions. To change your emotions, you must change how you feel about the situation. Maybe you haven't had a girlfriend/boyfriend for a long time, but what's the point in being depressed about it all the time? Being depressed is just going to make the situation worse. You've been single and you've been waiting patiently, so why don't you make yourself a nice cup of tea, pat yourself on the back, and start thinking positive? No one out there is worth your tears. People cannot control your emotions, only you have the power to do that.

2. Relationships = Choice: Quite simply, you don't need a relationship. In fact, you don't need anything. Everything that you do is based off of a choice (just like our emotions!). You don't need a relationship to make you happy because you can feel happy without even having reason to. Don't believe me? Do me a favor and smile. If you smile long enough, your brain will think that you're happy. The mind is a powerful thing...use it well.

3. Lonely vs. Alone: You may be thinking that there's no difference between being lonely and alone, but this is something you also learn about being single for a long time. Just because you're single doesn't mean that you're automatically "lonely". It also doesn't mean that you're "alone". A lot of people assume that just because they're single, they have no one to turn to. Being single for a long time, you learn how to value what you have (friends, family, video games, etc). You may think you aren't loved, but you have to learn how to use what you have. Once you fully understand how to use everything to your benefit, you will see that you've been loved all along.

4. Have patience: If you seriously want a relationship, sitting on your computer chair, or laying on your bed is not going to help you do that. If you're not the kind of person who pursues people, then have patience and let love come to you. Enjoy life either way because, like I said, relationships aren't needs.

5. Stop complaining: Like they say, "if you don't like something about yourself, change it". If you aren't willing to change it, then accept your situation/who you are. You have no reason to complain and not do anything. At least complain about something while doing something to make it better. Problems don't solve themselves. Guys, this goes for you especially because girls like guys with confidence. If you continue to do good acts for yourself, it'll become a consistent habit that will help you better your lifestyle. All it takes is a little commitment.

6. Someone for everyone: You've heard this before and it's true. I've been called several names throughout my life (gay, loser, fat, ugly, stupid, etc) and just because someone says it doesn't make it true. On hotornot.com, it claims that I am 87% hotter than men on the site. It's not very accurate, but it gives me the brief idea that a good percentage of people are interested in me (as compared to my 0% belief). Even when you think you're ugly, you'd be surprised how "hot" people actually consider you.

Conclusion: Basically, live your life. Don't let people take control of you because only you can make that decision of whether or not people control you. There's always going to be someone out there that is in a worse situation than you are who still makes the best out of life, so why don't you? Just because someone doesn't like you doesn't mean no one ever will. All you need is patience, and a commitment to being happy with or without a relationship.

"You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life." - Albert Camus

If I missed something, let me know and I'll add it to the list.